We think too much, not feeling enough
I’ve spent the past week in reflection and gratitude. I’m amazed at the women who showed up and dared meet themselves so honestly at the Wisdom of Embodied Femininity virtual retreat and honored they put their trust in me, my team, and our guest experts.
What I have come to realize, what most of us are craving, is a safe space to be received and felt unconditionally, to be vulnerable, and to process emotions without judgment or condition. Having this kind of pace these days is huge and hard to come by.
Finding support and feeling a sense of belonging is essential for our well-being, mental health, personal growth, and somatic intelligence.
When we try to process emotions of any kind on our own, we either stay stuck in our mind overthinking or we numb out to escape what we feel and sense. We get overwhelmed and shut down.
When we think too much, we are disconnected from our bodies and absent emotionally. Our word and energy don’t align.
The more we pay attention to what is felt in our bodies, and the more accurate we become, the faster we are able to move that energy through us and heal recent and past trauma. The more accurate we become, the more we live out of resonance (feeling on it!) and not out of dissonance (feeling off).
Coherence is being exactly where we are, feeling what we are feeling. It affords us a deep sense of coming back home to ourselves.
We need to be felt and received in an unconditional way to heal our past hurt impacting our performance.
For almost two years, I’ve met weekly with two other coaches - each of us studied with the brilliant Nicholas Janni. This is my coaching triad. The two of them know me better than almost anyone else in the world, even though we have never met in person.
Next time, I’ll share more about my experience with this beautiful support group, but until then, I want to invite you to practice being present with whatever comes up for you in the moment.
Give yourself grace when you mess up and forgiveness when you step into a place of blame, fear, anger, or shame. Sometimes our emotions show up in different ways in our body that don’t make sense to our mind. That’s the importance of practicing a process of releasing and reprogramming stuck energy, emotional blocks, and behavioural patterns trapped in our physical bodies.
It’s not always easy to live in truth. You have to be brave, BUT it’s a very rewarding journey that leads you to a place where you feel depth, belonging, intimacy, creativity, dignity, and safety, like never before.